Frequently Asked Questions
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Marriage
To determine the validity of your marriage, a judge will look at how you have acted together, including if you and your spouse use the same last names, have a child together, have told people you were married, leased an apartment as husband and wife, or filed joint income tax returns.
Divorce
A divorce can be finalized in as little 10 days if there are no minor children. If a divorce is contested, it generally takes 90 days or more.
After the papers have been served, the spouse has 20 days to file an answer. If a counterclaim is made, you are required to respond.
An automatic temporary injunction (ATI) comes into effect when a petition is served, and is intended to protect both parties. An ATI has provisions prohibiting certain financial expenditures and modifications to certain accounts and policies. This includes retirement accounts and insurance policies. Parties are also required to exchange certain documents within 30 days of service. Reading and abiding by the terms of the ATI is absolutely crucial, as any party found violating the ATI is subject to contempt of court.
Child Custody
Oklahoma, like most states, uses a “best interest of the child” standard to determine how child custody should be awarded. One of the factors courts take into consideration when deciding what qualifies as a child’s best interest includes his or her mental and physical well-being. The courts also consider if one parent is more or less likely to permit the child to have a relationship with the non-custodial parent. Oklahoma also allows children who are over the age of 12 to have a say in where they want to live, although courts do not base their final decision solely on a child’s particular preference.
The second is joint custody, in which both parties are responsible for making major decisions regarding the child. When a divorce case is contested, child custody is decided by the court according to the best interests of the child.
Children typically suffer the most when their parents separate. Full time, proper guidance that two parents can give is taken away from them. It is this guidance and direction that is essential to their moral and spiritual growth.
Although there is likely bitterness between you and your spouse, it should never be inflicted upon your children. There must and should be an image of two good parents in every child’s mind.
Your future conduct and relationships with your children will benefit from following these suggestions:
- Do not poison your child’s mind against their mother or father by discussing their shortcomings.
- Do not expose your children to any member of the opposite sex with whom you may be emotionally involved.
- Do not argue with the other parent during visitation exchanges.
- Do not visit your children if you have been drinking or are under the influence of drugs.
- Do not visit your children at unreasonable hours.
- Do not fail to notify your spouse as soon as possible if you are unable to keep your visitation. It’s unfair to your children to keep them waiting, and even worse to disappoint them by not coming at all.
- Make your visitation as pleasant as possible for your children by not questioning them regarding your spouse’s activities, and by not making extravagant promises which you know you cannot or will not keep.
- The parent with whom the children live must prepare them both physically and mentally for the visitation. The children should always be available at the time mutually agreed upon.
- If one parent has plans for the children that conflict with the visitation and these plans are in the best interests of the children, both parents should be adults and work to solve the problems together.
- Always work for the spiritual well-being, happiness, health, and safety of your children.
Visitation
You should be aware that a visitation schedule is for the purpose of providing and assuring non-custodial parents the minimum amount of visitation time possible. Visitation should exceed the number of occasions that are set out in the schedule.
Child Support
The parent who does not have primary custody is usually required to pay child support to the other parent. The amount of child support is based on the income of both parents. The other parent must also pay a part of the children’s medical expenses, day-care, and health insurance costs.
The Oklahoma Department of Human Services offers a free online child support calculator to assist spouses in determining an estimate of their potential child support.
If you and your spouse share parenting time, your child support obligation may be reduced. Under Oklahoma law, a non-custodial parent can receive a “shared parenting credit” if the child spends over 120 nights per year at his or her house. If a parent qualifies for the shared parenting credit, his or her child support is lowered by a percentage determined by the child support formula. The more nights the child spends with a parent, the more credits they receive.
Property and Debts
Separate property is property either spouse owned before marriage, or any property that was received during the marriage by gift or inheritance. The court also divides the various debts of the marriage. The only times the court may order the payment of separate property to the other spouse is to assist with childcare costs, or in the event, that spouse has very little income potential as compared to the spouse.
Alimony
The Divorce Process
If there are children involved, there is a 90-day waiting period to get a divorce. In some counties spouses may be required to attend a class on the effects of divorce on children.
As soon as a petition for divorce is filed and served to a spouse, an Automatic Temporary Injunction goes into effect. Neither spouse can sell or give property away, damage property, take money from bank accounts, or transfer money. Spouses can use money they would normally use to take care of the children and various household expenses.
Some counties require spouses to attend a parenting plan conference to work out details surrounding the children during the divorce process. At the parenting plan conference the parents will sign a Temporary Order agreeing on child care, visitation, expenses, property, and budget. If spouses are unable to agree, they are required to go through mediation or even have a court hearing. Spouses may also request a Temporary Order for child support, living expenses, who is responsible for paying the debts, and who keeps the car or any other property, until the final divorce decree.
The Temporary Order must stay in effect until the court enters a final divorce decree.
Under a very limited set of circumstances, and by following very specific procedures, an emergency order of custody may be granted without notice to your spouse if there is any chance of immediate and irreparable harm to the children. If this occurs, a hearing must be set within 10 days of the emergency order and notice of application filed.
A failure to pay alimony, debt, or child support can result in garnishment of wages and/or bank accounts, and seizure of property. An income assignment can be requested. When an income assignment is requested, a spouse’s employer is directed to deduct wages from his or her paycheck in order to fund alimony or child support.
If child support exceeds $5,000, or has not been paid for one year, or if a spouse has left the state, a request can be made to the District Attorney to file felony criminal charges and issue an arrest warrant. If the violation includes criminal activity, such as breaking and entering or assault and battery, it is crucial to file a police report. Parties may also seek an Emergency Protective Order if there have been instances of domestic abuse, harassment, or stalking. A Protective Order may be filed in the county where the abuse occurred, the county where the defendant resides, or in the county where the victims reside.
- Identify any issues, debts, witnesses, and assets
- Exchange information such as health care information, bank statements, tax documents, credit card statements, and more.
- Ask and answer interrogatories (questions).
During the discovery process, information must be provided in an organized and timely manner to help speed up the process and keep costs down.
Clients are responsible for filing fees and any other additional out-of-pocket expenses.